This is the look of a woman scorned...
...aaaaaand of a woman on PMS.
Only an idiot like me would break up with her boyfriend the week before her period.This is my blog. And I would love to gossip about what happened. But that's a dick move.
Plus - he doesn't have a blog.
He does have a bar stool. And from it, he's been complaining about me to our friends for months. None of our friends have asked me for a chance to defend myself.
So... should I?
Let me just say this.
I didn't want to break up with him. I really didn't want to. I wanted to marry him. I'm totally heartbroken and crushed, like a goddamn teenager.
But I didn't have a choice.
Imagine you bought tickets to see your favorite band in concert. You get dressed up and drive to the show. The show is an hour away. You get there, and you find out that your favorite band isn't playing. With no warning, they've decided that they don't feel like playing a show that night. They are tired. They need a break. They want to hang out with their friends, drink beers, shoot the shit backstage.
Let's say you gave that band another chance. Let's say you drove to see them play a number of times. You went so many times that you became friends with other concertgoers. You felt like family with them.
But each time, the band didn't feel like playing. They left you to drink beers and shoot the shit backstage.
How many times would you drive out to see the show,
before you stopped buying tickets?
before you stopped buying tickets?
Hopefully fewer times than I did. ;-)
The message: When a guy's not in love with you anymore, there's no point in staying in the relationship. Even if you're crazy in love with him.
I'm miserable.
I'm beat.
But I'm well aware that I really don't have it that bad.
Here's what I'm nomming.
Break-Up Food
Udis Bagels
Raw cheese
Vanilla Hemp ice cream and Justin's Peanut Butter
Luna and Larry's Chocolate Coconut Milk ice cream
Spinach Cacao Layered Mousse
Recipe forthcoming!!!
Smoothie Deb's Microwave Chocolate Cake
Ecologica
Thanks to my Go Indie pals for suggesting this!!!
Raw cheese
Vanilla Hemp ice cream and Justin's Peanut ButterLuna and Larry's Chocolate Coconut Milk ice cream
Spinach Cacao Layered MousseRecipe forthcoming!!!
Smoothie Deb's Microwave Chocolate Cake
EcologicaThanks to my Go Indie pals for suggesting this!!!
Am I an emotional eater?
Hells yeah!
But every single day I pig out, I also go to the gym. I work my ass off.
So there, broken heart!
Toots
When you are depressed, how do you deal?
What foods are comforting to you?
What healthy junk food are you nomming?
Any break-up tips? I'm aggin' to feel better!
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When you are depressed, how do you deal?
What foods are comforting to you?
What healthy junk food are you nomming?
Any break-up tips? I'm aggin' to feel better!
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23 comments:
Ugh! I'm so sorry. Sounds like you did the right thing. I've been that concert goer AND ended up being the one being dumped so at least you may have a little pride left.
And you've made room for the right guy!
Thank you!!! It's wonderful to hear from you. Your kind words totally brighten my day. :-)
errr... or night, as it is in PA right now. ;-)
im sorry about your breakup. i recently ended a 3 year relationship so i know little bit how u feel. chocolate is my downfall :)
so sorry, farty, but good for you for having the courage to end something you knew wasn't right.
i've been that concert goer too, then found out the band drank beers, shot the shit plus more with groupies. they sang their apologies and i accepted, TWICE, but then thank god i came to my senses and realized that i may have loved one or two good songs, but overall the band SUCKED ASS. i haven't listened to them in over five years.=)
i ached at first, watched hours of tv, smoked a lot and ate my face off. dated guys even worse than the cheater, then finally accepted that i was going to be single forever, and actually felt ok about it. then john came along. now i look back and say wow, all that shit had to happen for me to find john, but it was so worth it.
hang in there!
xoxoxo
Oh no! I'm so sorry. I am actually the opposite. I don't eat when I get emotional. I under eat and over workout. I'm thinking about you!
Thank you, friends! I can't tell you how much better I feel to hear your words of encouragement. It's such a dumb little thing... like a paper cut... but hurts big! I appreciate your support. Our little blogger community rocks. <3
Aw man, I'm sorry! I know that feeling though, of putting yourself out there and really making someone a priority only to get very little back. It feels like crap, and there comes a point when you have to decide who you value more. Yourself or the other person. And of course, the answer should always be yourself. Because if the other person was right for you, being with him wouldn't mean being disrespectful to yourself. I'm proud of you for having the courage and strength to take care of yourself no matter how much it might hurt at first. You're a fantabulous woman, and any guy that doesn't recognize that and make you #1 in his life...well, he ain't no guy you should be wasting your time on.
When I'm down, I really like the feel of weights in my hands. The stairmaster works well too.
Hope you're feeling better soon.
srsly i love that we are all home on the computer right now. :-)
Oh Farty! Sorry to hear about the breakup - but your reasons were the right ones! Breakups always suck and are painful but they're usually for the best. Life is truly too short to waste time with someone who doesn't adore you and constantly make you feel loved.
And I think we've all been the concert-goer...*lol* it's such an accurate description!
So eat all the ice cream you need to, take comfort in your friends & fellow bloggers & remember never to settle for anything less than what makes you happy!
Ugh, I'm sorry things ended up like this, but better knowing now. I'd a similar experience, I think most of us have. Enjoy that ice-cream, whatever it takes to mend yourself. Farty Guy will turn up eventually;) You look after yourself girl x
Hey - I am so sorry to hear about the concert sucking - I have so been there, when you make someone a priority and they just can't make you one. That band is so not worth it, but it still sucks to be in that situation.
Plus, yeah, in hindsight, I also was the concert goer who did not realize the band spent lots of time with other groupies too.
Good for you for making yourself a priority. And your break-up eats look awesome. :) :) :)
Girrrl.... Good for you for doing what was right for you. Crappy boyfriends are like junk food. Nothing but bad for ya.
I had a stressful few weeks and found myself eating SUGAR SUGAR SUGAR. That's all I want when things suck.
Hang in there, lovely lady.
Nerds! Sounds to me like you're better without him.
Whenever I used to go through break ups, I would feel better knowing that just across the pond my Irish or British soul mate was waiting for me...with a super sexy accent. American men be damned!
I'm so sorry!!!!!! Guys can really suck. Do you know how different men and women are? We shouldn't even be classified under the same species. Like some brilliant friends of mine taught me: Women are "relationship beings" and men are . . . not. My husband says that if it were not for women, men would still be cavemen. It's just not in their basic makeup to be the way we want them to be.
"The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off." Dylan Ratigan
The sooner you understand how different men and women really are, the easier your life will become. The whacky sh%# guys do will not be so painful, it will just be how they have to act because that's how they are.
Again, I'm so sorry for your hurt!
I'm sorry for your heartache but honestly sounds as though it deserves better treatment. Love the feel better foods! We all need them, haha my feel better food lately has been a mimosa. It wasn't a break up but a heartbreak of missing my Dad.
Sorry, it's about all I can say. But I hope you know it's heartfelt and true.
OOOOOOH that sucks.
This just means that the right guy is one more stepping stone closer!! :)
And that you are amazing, and deserve someone who would drive to your concert anywhere in the world.. (uggg... I hope that makes sense)!
I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. From reading your blog I gather that you're a strong, resilient, totally kick-ass woman so I have full confidence that you'll bounce back from this. However, having gone through a breakup recently myself, I know how much this sucks. I just hope you can appreciate how amazing it is that you were able to do the right thing and that you're holding strong with the exercise goals through it all. You're one tough chica! xox
Sorry to hear it Anney. Break-ups are never easy. Hopefully time will heal the issues and you will find your way back to each other. Until then, hold your head high and be the beautiful, intelligent, creative woman that you are. And keep on making delicious food!
Sorry about your breakup. I too am an emotional eater. But if that microwave chocolate cake is the choice, at least it's healthier! I'm so making it.
I've just caught up.... ohhhhh boy am I so sorry!!!!! That totally sucks. Good for you though for taking a stand. I've been there too. It's so hard, but you've done the right thing. Keep your head up sista!
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